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I'm almost an introvert. I don't like talking to people much. I prefer to listen. Today one of the graduating seniors told me I should talk to people more. But I've been doing fine so far without talking to more people.

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  • 10
    Emphasis on "so far".

    Communication and social stuff is vital since organizations, even pure tech organizations, are composed of humans and humans are quite social :p

    Listening is a vital skill though and it's cool that you're good at it.
  • 7
    Like the comment above. If you can listen you’re far ahead of so many people. Learn to talk when you need to talk and always be friendly. That does the job.

    Some people would want you to be a social fucking butterfly. Unless you wanna be one, Don’t have to do that.
  • 3
    @RememberMe @grumpyoldaf spoke the truth.

    I'll also like to add, if you're part of a team, it might be fine for you but a fair amount of communication is necessary for a team to function properly.

    Unfortunately, you are not alone and must take into account what others need to be able to work with you.
  • 2
    @Cultist your username is strangely appropriate here :p
  • 1
    Well studies show that introverts are best CEO 🙂
    If organization can’t manage introverted people as an asset it’s shitty organization.
    https://qz.com/748741/...
  • 1
    I suggest that you continue in this way, I worked in organizations, and usually, the people who talk the most, who is more "nice" is a bit political and the worst thing you can get into an organization is in the game of politics and better stay out of it.

    If you're good at what you do, nobody will fire you.
  • 1
    @vane is OP the head of company? Even in a management role? Chances are ney.
  • 1
    @Cultist I don’t care what people do.
  • 4
    My boss said the same, I need to talk more with the rest of the employees, that I 'should stop being so shy'.

    I quickly answered I'm not shy, I just hate people.

    The next meeting I weren't 'so shy', I literally raged till the point where some attendants almost dropped out. Now it's all back to normal, and I don't have to speak to anyone as it were before. Success.
  • 1
    I probably know how you feel. I'm quite communicative but not really an extrovert neither introvert, something in between. I'm the more quiet type, a thinker.

    In my 20 years of experience in the field of software engineering I noticed that people who are extrovert or very outspoken seem to be in a beneficial position. They just attract more attention and as such, are getting more involved in many things than those that are more quiet. This seems to be purely based on one's communicative capabilities, not on tech skills. This can suck big time now and then.

    For example, I have such a colleague in the team and he gets to do almost every new and exciting thing just because he minds every one else's business! One could say he's very involved, which is positive, but I think he's a bit over involved: you should not always mind every one else's business and trust capable people to do a good job and certainly not have other dev's rework a lot just because he didn't expect it to be like that.
  • 1
    To seize the opportunities , you should get out of your comfort zone. I have lost many opportunities myself due to my introversion and now i am changing this. And I spend time to recharge
  • 2
    @namnbyte kind of "overcorrection"...I think it happened to me too
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