People of devRant, how did you meet your spouse/partner, and what is their occupation?

I am just wondering how you get to actually meet people and create relationships while having an insanely intense tech career.

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Tinder, she was just finishing uni.

I tried having a relationship in the workplace before that, but it's true what they say on TV, don't do it, it sucks

@Hazarth You can actually have something serious come out of Tinder? I stayed away from dating apps because they sounded pretty toxic.

At a wedding between mutual friends.

And not a tech related profession in any way.

@NickyBones I was surprised too! But I was also pretty depressed at the time and Tinder sounded like a pretty good option around my otherwise shit schedule and lack of motivation.

long story short, she was my only match on Tinder and now we're together for almost a year and a half, happy, mostly perfect sync and looking to move in together soon. I feel lucky to have met such a great person!

I have a friend who is less lucky though and he spent a lot of time on Tinder now and still has nothing to show for it. I personally think he's too picky but who knows.

So to be real it's not a golden bullet solution or anything, but it's worth a shot in my experience at least.

In a psychotic episode.

@rantsauce Wow, romantic! Do you take the same meds?

@Voxera Shit, all my friends are already married!

OkCupid while we were in uni. He was doing a double degree in Philosophy and Computer Science, I was double majoring in Psychology and Anthropology. 😅 He’s a software engineer.

@RocketSurgeon sudden lack of commits every time

@NickyBones yes, you can. Met my now long-time partner (married them) on Tinder as well. Or rather, connected. We’d seen each other a few times before, but we were still complete strangers to each other.

Went to school with him, he's an engineer (of the mechatronic variety)

no interest in "significant other"

Tinder. Neither of us was looking for anything serious at the time.

Also, getting to that point, I had relaxed my hectic tech life/career quite much. Most likely wouldn't happened otherwise.

They are environmental engineer, doing water management stuff. Pretty much complete non-tech person. Which is funny in many ways. 😁

@acelan what does it even mean if an engineer is a non-tech person.

@tosensei You met your partner by having no interest in a significant other? Interesting.

I didn't.

If you find an answer to the "how you get to actually meet people" lemme know

I met her originally at a language competition in china, didn't talk too much at the time. Later we both took a year off to study at the same university in china. We became best friends there and after two years we started dating. Best relationship I've ever had and things are still as good as they could ever be 😊 oh and she is not doing anything tech related but she has an interest in it

I met her at a friend's party. She is currently studying after being jobless for a few years because of depression.

Oh and I am interested too into "how to get to know new people" :D

Badoo (dating app) just happen to swipe yay to each other and kept having interesting topics to talk about.
Mostly our common interest in psychology.
I'm more scientific and logically thinking while she's much deeper into emotions and interpretating feelings. :-)

We met in a restaurant while I was traveling. Or rather she met me as I wasn't quite aware yet. So a not-profession-related random encounter. She's working in marketing (not tech).

Let’s get to know each other, shall we?

I haven't. The moment I finished school, I ran out of easy places to meet people at. I have to go out of my way to do it now, and it sucks. I have to resort to dating apps and those suck as well. Meeting new people as an adult is incredibly hard, and in my case even harder because I want nothing to do with kids.

@ars1 I don't like kids either. And as a woman, if you don't like kids, everyone assumes there is something inherently wrong with you.

@NickyBones High five!
And it sucks, because every woman I run into will say that she wants kids even if that's not really the case. I've seen 1 (one) that was not interested, but I didn't bother because she was not looking for a long term relationship.
If I as a man get weird looks by saying that I don't like kids, I can only imagine how bad it must be for a woman. A friend of mine is like that and she gets endless amounts of shit by parents in her neighborhood.

@ars1 It's probably the parents who really regret having kids, and just look for an outlet for their bitterness :)

Met at work in my first job. I was an apprentice software dev, she was a system tester.

@TrevorTheRat Did you start dating while working at the same place, or after?

@ars1 I have a good friend who told me I was like the first guy to take her stance on not having kids seriously. I guess it's pretty common to hear stuff like "wait until you get older" or smth like that

@NickyBones While at the same place.

I know many people from the companies I’ve been at since that have had the same experience. Maybe it’s quite common.

@NickyBones misery loves company :)

Here you go: Cyanide#1271

I usually just try to pursue my hobbies and meet people along the way. That worked fine for now... Also I am not actively looking. I am just living and if someone comes along and there is chemistry, then we give it a go :D

At work :)

Back then I had several jobs: a nurse at days and a staff member at events (concerts, games, shows, etc.)

That night of Christmas 8 years ago I was working in a cloakroom. She was working in another cloakroom in the same building. As the event began, I could take a break and walk around. That's when I met her, enjoying that strawberry ice cream. Something clicked instantly :)

I'm guessing my story doesn't help you much. Regardless, your "Zing" can be lurking at any corner, you never know ;) Coffee shop, mall, park, street, cloakroom, book store, ... anywhere

I am too early but by end of this year, I will get arrange marriage. I have tried everything from dating apps to friend of friend. Nothing worked. So arrange marriage is the last option for me.