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starrynights89
6y

Got back home from my last therapy session. Situation was kind of strange. I had only done about two sessions but my therapist told me they wouldn't be a good fit for me as I have a pretty good grasp of what my issues are and what I want to do to fix them.

Thing is, I'm an introverted person. And I work with people who are much more extroverted than me. And that's not really surprising, most Americans are to a fault extremely extroverted and it drives me nuts.

I hate their gas guzzling trucks and suv's that haul almost nothing so they can go to Walmart to buy shit they don't need. I hate our advertising with it's whoring to the public. I hate our media for being shallow as fuck. I hate our politicians who whore out capitalism to the lowest fucking bidder to get elected.

I do like some American companies though, and we have a lot of pretty locations you can see. I like Minneapolis, I'd probably like Seattle and Portland too but I've never been there.

I don't know. I think I'm at a breaking point in my frustration with living in the States, and I need to decide next year if I want to make a call to leave the country or decide on a different state to live in. Someplace that's far less conservative than Iowa. I'm single, I could manage to make a major move change without it affecting anyone but me.

I'm feeling a bit tense. I just want to write code and calm the fuck down a couple levels.

Sorry if I've been pissy. :(

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  • 2
    6y
    If anyone out there is from the UK/Germany/Netherlands, I'd be curious for feedback on your likes/dislikes of living where you do.
  • 3
    6y
    Wait Iowa is a real place? I always assumed it was a myth like Wyoming and the two Dakotas! lmao

    It seems to me like you should probably just find a city and move to it. The word "conservative" and the word "city" go together like peanut butter and pickles.
  • 1
    6y
    I can totally relate to your problem. I just want to leave because I dislike so many people here and I have to see them on a daily basis, but I don't know where to go since I just don't feel safe from those idiots anywhere. And there are some friends whose I obviously don't want to leave behind because I'm still an introvert and making friends is an incredibly difficult and painful task for me. And at the end I just want to live peacefully in a healthy environment.. but I doubt I can ever achieve this.
  • 0
    6y
    @Stuxnet I live and work out in Cedar Rapids. I'd describe it as a pretty centrist leaning city.

    I've stayed here because tuition costs are better to go in state, and I'm close to getting done so it's just a matter of patience.
  • 1
    6y
    @cave You'll find a way. Most of my college friends are gone after I hit senior year and you learn to make new friends.
  • 2
    6y
    do NOT move over to Germany.
    I repeat: do NOT move to Germany.

    you would regret it in the long term. I hope for you you'll take my advice.
  • 0
    6y
    @HIGHphen And why would that be? I heard your beer is pretty good.
  • 3
    6y
    @starrynights89 you're right. the beer is pretty good. the region where I live (in the south, at the foot of the Schwarzwald) is also very beautiful. but seriously the people in this country are full of shit. there is a fucking law for everything and instead of coming over for barbecue they stand at the fence yelling at you because of the smoke. or your car being parked an inch too close to their front yard. Germany is the country where you go to jail for not paying GEZ (enforced payment to receive official TV senders even if you don't) whereas a multiple child molester and murderer gets a 2 years therapy. Germany is also the country where an old woman who worked in hospital for more than 45 years caring for sick and old people has to beg in the streets after her retirement because she cannot live from her rent.
  • 1
    6y
    of course not everything is bad here for sure. but personally I hate it here. feel free to ask me any question on specific topics you're interested in and I'll try to give you an objective answer.
  • 1
    6y
    in contrast to the US for example we have health insurance enforced by law. so the good thing is if you get hit by a car or develop a serious illness or something you'll get your treatment guaranteed. they won't let you die. but to achieve that you're going to pay your ass of. it's like 20% of your monthly income and most of the time you even have to pay by yourself for medicine for example.
  • 1
    6y
    @HIGHphen Viele interessante Rückmeldungen. :)

    Coming as an American, our laws are like a double edged sword. On the one hand my government is a lot more lax than anything in Europe, but as a result we're all over the place in stability.

    Here's a minor example, our state government lifted the ban on Fireworks for Independence Day celebrations. With no rules added to the lift of said ban. As a result, I've had to deal with all my neighbors doing fireworks up to 3:00 AM in the morning in the middle of the work week. I just have to try to get to sleep in spite of it and calling the cops is pointless if everyone does it.

    Government funding is also a huge lopsided issue here as well. Depending on what city/state you go to you can have places like Flint Michigan with it's water quality issues or Chicago's budget issues. And don't get me started about healthcare here. It's a very touchy issue in my country. I've described it as a lottery system at best.
  • 2
    6y
    @HIGHphen Also, depending on where you go in the US you can get a similar experience to what Germany is like. I grew up in a college town and you could get fined for anything from going 8 km over the speed limit to being fined for parking in the wrong zone for 10 minutes.

    Contrasted with the state of Texas where, with the right paperwork, you can legally own an automatic rifle.

    Germany's taxes are much higher than the US for sure, I've seen it from job searching that it can be as much as a $10,000 - $15,000 difference for an equivalent job here. Thing is, the US tax system is so light that we have freaking Domino's Pizza offering to fill in potholes if the government can't pay for it. Granted where I live we don't have too much a tax issue as we're pretty firm believers in paying taxes.

    I'm not saying the US is shit. It isn't. But we're far from being the greatest country on earth IMO.
  • 5
    6y
    I think southern germany is very diffrrent to the north. But yes. Some of the things mentioned earlier are true.

    I do like it here though. The city is nice, I have a minimum wage job but I'm also not done studying yet. Connections are crucial for finding a good payed job these days...
    Yeah the country loves it's burocracy. You have to hand in your papers on time or GG. They love papers... for everything.

    I think I'm also biased since I'm originally from a different country and from a rather poor life so this all looks like luxury to me even though I've spend most of my life here by now.

    Oh the food is less sugary.
  • 1
    6y
    Found german coworkers (both at work and in uni) pretty straight forward, which is a bit of a shocker at first, but now I find it so useful
  • 0
    6y
    @Brosyl @starrynights89 if you're going to live in GE then you'll get a whole government full of clowns. nobody is competent but everybody has an opinion which is heard. the result is politicians arguing years over one topic and still not getting anywhere in the end. after elections here this year we had like no government for months because they couldn't agree with eachother. the only thing everybody agreed after few days is to raise they're monthly income. and while we have serious problems in this country the topics they discuss are for example that in German elementary books the boys and girls names have to change to some more multi cultural names and also in the pictures there have to be some black kids and kids with a turban so nobody gets offended. this is going on for years now. as a result people at last started electing some under the cover Nazi parties because they don't see another way of enforcing a change. this year they were first time elected into the Bundestag. scary!
  • 0
    6y
    @HIGHphen isn't Afd full on, not even under cover, nazi party?
  • 1
    6y
    @Brosyl I don't see it coming that far 😅 no really, most of the people here are very well aware and the people who elected them did it for protest purposes to wake up the current politicians.
    @psukys yes, you're right. but they are intelligent enough to not get flagged as such by the Verfassungsschutz to get blocked as a party.
  • 1
    6y
    @HIGHphen @Brosyl The thing about Donald Trump is you have to understand his election as being a result of blue collar/rural americans becoming frustrated with our Federal Government's inaction on domestic issues. Look at places like the rust belt or the decline of non-service industry jobs over the past 25 years as a prime example here. His election was a protest vote not unlike what the AFD is in Germany, only difference is they run all 3 branches of our government. It's not the end of the world, our government always swings back and balances out. It always does.

    It seems to me everywhere has a trade off. You can get a more lax government with more cash in your pocket but a more unstable society, or a more stable government system and a society that if you don't care for it you can't do much to change it.

    One thing I'll say about America is that we do change pretty radically every decade or so in our politics and our viewpoints. Sometimes for better and sometimes for worse.
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