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Have you ever had a problem with a partner, but you cannot prove at 100% that he has something against you? But you cannot stand him?

Well, this happened two years ago. I was working as a tester, and “John” (I won’t say his real name) was the dude who tests my tests, but in production.

I ‘m a sociable person, and I don’t mind talking with another people. Suddenly, I noticed that my co-worker started to behave a little bit... rude? Plain? I don’t know, but sometimes he didn’t answer my conversations/questions, or sometimes answered with extra-negative stuff.

“Well, his life is not easy” I said to myself. “Everybody haveproblems”, “I have to understand him and calm down”.

Two weeks later started to report really REALLY absurd production bugs, and with absurd I mean, for example, that he didn’t like the color of a button, a point next to a phrase, etc., things very very simples, but sometimes he ignored big errors.

Once I had to went out of the city for few hours, and asked to permission to go out. I had pending tests, but I left a document with specifications in case of emergency. Even passwords. Before I could finish the thing in the other city, my partner called me two times, and asking me obvious things! I had to go back to the office ealier that I had planned, so f*** angry 😡 and when I arrived to the office, John said “no, forget it, let’s solve it tomorrow” 🙃 WTF?!!!!!!

I decided not to argue with him.

Also noticed that his headaches suddenly increased, and looked so tired ☚ī¸ I felt guilty to judge him

I felt so guilty, and even today I don’t know what to feel about that or what to think. I don’t work there anymore, but, What do you think? What would you do?

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  • 2
    Fix up a meeting at a right time, right place, and talk to him.
  • 1
    @irene I’d preffer to say “stressed AF from personal problems”, what actually is a mental thing 🤔
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    @ajit555 I don’t work there anymore, but it’s a good advice anyway 😁 the thing is that I wasn’t sure of the real cause of the problem (whether he hated me because something I said or he was just was having a bad time). That’s why I never talked about it :c
  • 1
    Flatten his tires and burn his house... That will give him justifiable reasons to be stressed and an asshole to others :)
  • 3
    Maybe his Personal Problems bring out the worst in him or maybe he has a Bipolar Disease. I had one such colleague who simply had mood swings taking him to two extreme ends of being nice and being a jerk.
  • 1
    I don't recall that situation. Strange :/

    As a jhon I'm sorry another jhon caused you an unwanted situation. truthy(sorry);

    Jokes aside, serious advice: some people just need to be asked what their problem is or just 'how is it?' 'are you okay?' 'hey have a good day(motherfucker)' just make sure they don't notice the last part :)

    Ps: I have my issues too
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