So who are battered husbands here like me but doesn't fight or hit back because he loves his wife so much?

Thats called domestic abuse and if a bitch tryna hit me they goin out cold

Physically, no, psychologically and emotionally, yes. Have you tried to get counseling?

@iAmNaN @rutee07 Couldn't agree more. Psychological/emotional abuse is so common that most people aren't even able to recognise it.

Well I can't win any argument even if I'm correct. This is more than martyrdom. I'm not hitting or fighting back. I'm not gonna leave her because my family likes her and I want to give them a baby.

I'm the one who always adjusts. My wife is like a double edged sword = very loving very caring, the other very dangerous

@Devnergy if she is already abusing you then imagine what lack of sleep would do when the baby comes.

If your family aren't on your side then fuck them.

You can always find someone better.

You need to start valuing yourself more.

You love her but she probably doesn't.

@Devnergy Sounds like a narcissist/empath relationship. Sort that woman out man or leave her ass. There’s absolutely no excuse for that shit, woman or not. And very very rarely will it ever get better unless there’s a massive shift in her mentality and self awareness

Talk it through with her

@Devnergy if that really is the case, she will 100% cheat on you sooner or later. Run while you can.

@tekashi I was raised well and taught to respect people. My wife is good and have not cheated on me. It is just her attitude, even her mother admitted it to me that she's a spoiled beat.

She's very loving and takes care of me, says sorry. BUT the opposite is beyond words to explain. Worst that you can imagine. Hmm maybe the good and bad things to her balances out to me so I'm still with her. But who knows? Every person has a limit.

She has little to no temper meter. Maybe I was raised as a good person so I have come this far. Or I'm just plain stupid, denying facts? 😂

Update: she said sorry ang hugged me. Here we go again. She's gonna fight/hit me then will say sorry after. Is this even legal? Then my soft (stupid?)heart will forgive her.

Maybe in the future the cycle will start again? Fight/hit then say sorry after.

Sorry I have put this here in devRant. Just need to let it out/seek advices

@Devnergy Honestly, you know what needs to be done. I don't believe that she can change that easily, hence why the only solution for now seems to be leaving her.

On a side note, you can put yourself through whatever you want, but when you're saying all that and then add: "I want to give them a baby", that makes me angry. He/she will definitely suffer from the situation without choosing it. That's is not something one should do.

Classical abuse, usually (statistically) more common by men.
What you're describing to an extent sound like a textbook example of manic depression.
Nevertheless, such mood swings are not normal, she has issues.

A baby will NOT fix what’s broken. Fix or end the relationship before a baby comes into the situation.

@nnee at least she's now diagnosed by a certified devRant psychiatrist

@Devnergy before taking any other steps, you should ask her to go with you to counseling. It's the first step toward fixing, if you want it fixed. Otherwise, the choices are to continue as is, or walk away. At the end, though, none of us here are qualified to give marital advice anymore than a psych counselor is qualified to give us advice on software design. If you are a religious person, talk to your Rabbi/Pastor/Imam/Guru; if not talk directly to a qualified marriage counselor. My opinion is that a marriage is always worth trying to repair.