If you're a developer and you enjoy/love doing it... Don't get married. Don't have kids.

EVER

Why ,😅

I disagree. I love being a developer and my wife and daughter are the best thing that ever happened to me. My wife doesn't understand anything I do, but she makes a great human rubber duck at times.

Yes yes yes. But I have a client that needs something done now and a stay at home wife yelling that I need to be home, helping, doing more.

Yeah thats the plan

Don't try to have a hobby, either. My wife is fine with the work, she knows I'd rather spend time with our son, but when I want one evening a week to do a hobby I'm suddenly worlds worst dad.

Juggling life is freakin' hard.

Hobby... I used to be in a band. She should be happy I don't have that anymore. Haha.

But, I typically don't have to be at the office til 10, sometimes noon. And she'll start asking my whereabouts at like 6. I don't even know anymore.

No free sex? fuck no am getting married.

@digitalmcgrath lol. what a giant lively soft duck!

How I wish

@Letmecode Amen.

Hi. I am developer, realy like it and I'm married and mom too...

Some people change a lot because of marriage. Some people don't.

This is particularly poignant if you think about the expectations we all carry about what a marriage should be. All of a sudden, an ambitious, energetic person gets trapped into thinking they need to take care of kids, home, partner. All of a sudden a laid-back person that didn't take things too seriously now thinks they need to work hard to provide for a family.

It'd be too pretentious to say this is the case, but I hope it helps anyway.

@MadHatrix I agree :-) I'm planning to be single too. No wife, no problem :-D

@MadHatrix I see your problem, even tho you are the boss, you have two set of customers who demands opposite things.

My girlfriend (cause I'll never get married) is pregant of our first child. Long story short, I feel like slipping away from our house one night with my computer and never come back...

Clients/bosses are eager, impatient, and often have no idea what goes into making their product. This can make them seem like nagging kids - the healthy thing for both them and you is to set boundaries, or even disappoint them. Maybe you'll have an angry client/boss on a project one day - who cares. It is just work.
But, since you're saying you get to work between 10-12 - does that mean that you could get there at eight in the morning instead? Maybe the wife would be happy to spend quality time with you while there is still daylight at 4 instead of 6-8. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't seem like a big sacrifice.
Just my two cents.

@jayminator I typically watch and play with my toddler before work, until she's up, showered and ready for the day. Then she makes breakfast and my lunch, as I'm trying to get out the door, despite telling her I need it sooner. My toddler is at the 'look what I can do' every 3 minutes phase, so he needs constant attention.

I have my day job and I have clients outside of that. It's impossible to work at home because of the wife and kids. I just can't get my wife to understand that I need more time away from them in the evening. Which is fair, because I spend the extra time in the morning with them.

@MadHatrix Thanks for the context of your frustrations. When re-reading my comment I see it could be perceived as an insult by stating the obvious. Sorry about that.