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Sounds like you need to set boundaries and expectations.
And that means with work and your home life.
If you're consistently working 10-14h a day and also weekends then your employer is straight up exploiting you.
If your partner cannot support you in that _sometimes_ this isn't a "9-5" career, then maybe you're not a good match. -
It sounds like you need a gf who understands your work life, and an employer who understands your personal life.
We all work long days once in a while, and your gf should be understanding of that. If she's going to kick up a stink all the time, as @rutee07 said, perhaps you guys are incompatible. But on the flip side if stupidly long hours are becoming constant, they're taking the piss and you need to look elsewhere. -
Overtime. You're working really too much.
And yes, even though there are cases where people like to not spend (much) time together, try to ask her what's bothering her the most.
For me it sounds like a case of:
- grouchy tired guy in the morning
- angry, grouchy zombie guy in the evening, coming home at whatever time he pleases
- and everyday a new reason for the why
I would be worried obviously but also pissed for the reason that I'd most likely end up as the emotional waste bin of your days... Turning to weeks.
A few days, okay. But weeks and even weekends... ?! Nope. Not my type of relationship. -
@IntrusionCM thanks for your thoughts. I have given them a good thinking and that is how it is currently playing out. .. I probably. Need to micro manage myself to accormodate the other gender. . Thanks I appreciate
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I think having a girlfriend and being a senior software engineer dont go together.
For the past 3 weeks I have a very terrible week product luanch after product luanch. . To top it up all product promotions keep coming left right center then you also need to support some system you wrote many many years ago because the company does want to hire support engineers. You go to office at 8am and leave 7pm some times 9 in the afternoon . There is no time to see your see your gf and weekends, its either you are working on some thing random. Try to explain that to her.. all she see are excuses not be with her. The moment I try to be unemployed I doubt if she can stay
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