I thought living alone without my family will help me to be more productive but no! When I got out of the office and start walking towards my home, I feel like there is no one waiting for me. What am I doing? When I reach, I feel empty, all alone, by myself. Maybe, it's time to marry someone, maybe a girlfriend? But I don't have any courage to start a conversation with a woman. I just expect someone will talk to me out of interest. But none! Is marrying someone the only solution? having a family is the ultimate peace? IDK

If you marry someone, your girlfriend could be a good idea

Join an organization that has a mix of people with similar interests. If you want to meet a partner in life make sure that group is represented in that organization. Do something that requires human contact. Sometimes being introverted is just a lack of social experience. I have helped a number of people learn to socialize and be more comfortable in a social setting. Myself became more comfortable in a social setting by working at a fast food restaurant.

Yes. love/companionship is like the 3rd step in the Maslow's needs hierarchy. We already know that humans are strongly social creatures. We require someone in our life to be happy (or at least happier). You don't need to jump into marriage right away either. Date first

get comfortable around yourself. it's a hard lesson to learn, but it's worth it.

stop paying for internet and it'll
force you to do things lol

I had a few months doing that and it was great. Not super convenient, but great.

Now I have Internet. and I hate myself lol

> "I feel like there is no one waiting for me"

Having a 'why' is a powerful motivator and having someone you love and loves you back is a huge 'why' to strive for. Not always perfect, messy sometimes, but worth it.

@tosensei I second this - it's invaluable to be comfortable with your own company.
Companionship is suggested and friendship is essential my therapist said.
Baby steps. Run it like a sprint, try a new thing each sprint to get up your social time x
Good luck OP. Be kind to yourself x

You've got to wait yourself at home first before someone else wants to.

What I said may be bs but I I thought it sounded interesting so I wrote it down anyway.

It sounds like you're living alone only for short time, e.g. just recently moved out from home.

To put it out in an abrasive way...

Guess what, our childhood dreams of adult hood were wrong, adulthood sucks and learning to live alone is a tough life lesson in self acceptance.

Tough like "running with full speed into a street lantern and getting a kick in the private parts afterwards" tough.

For some it's easier, for others harder.

What's important is to accept yourself.

Find out what you like. Get some hobbies. Join clubs. Go to a fancy restaurant and watch people if that makes you happy... But most importantly: Find it out. Really.

Try things. Learn things about yourself. Go explore. Have fun. Learn from mistakes. Even painful / non fun things are important.

Reason I'm saying that is ... The sooner you learn to live on your own, the easier your life will become. Not now maybe, but in the future? Absolutely.

To be abrasive again... If you always depend on others, you're a pain in the butt. I mean it. Usually everyone encounters one person in their life where they just ask themselves: How the fuck did they survive till now?

Don't be that person, please.

Those person's are really annoying and noone wants to be friends with them... Cause they're needy, greedy and most of all they don't know any hardship.

@retoor I don't have one. I find it very difficult to start a conversation with a woman. 😅

@IntrusionCM Thank you so much. It was helpful! 😇

Courage ? You just gotta be nice

I be lonely too. It’s a normal feeling. Don’t search for a romantic relationship where it will most likely delay your goals - search for loyal friends who can help build you up. Self improvement is the key thing. Meditate/journal and join a gym/sport/club where it’s easy to interact with others. Socialization is purely a need, like food, and it’s not a “nice to have”.

And honestly, fuck anyone that says you can’t have a close relationship with your family all of your life.

@Nanos That is the point of joining a group. You cannot control who you interact with. This is a growth tactic.