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On every new job, there is always the Impostor Syndrome.

They know each other, they're all having fun and they're friends. They're super nice to me and include you in everything, but still a lot of the time they're talking about shit that I have no idea about.

And professionally it's not better. I'm new, I don't know how things work, yet everybody knows it like the back of their hands.

There is this irrational fear, this feeling, that I don't belong, that I'm an impostor, and someone might see through my mask for who I really am - a guy with no idea about what's going on, that doesn't belong, that's an IMPOSTOR.

It takes time to overcome, especially when in a foreign country. Once it's passed, I become more attached to my colleagues and my job if the hurdle was harder, than whether I felt right at home from the very start.

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  • 1
    I know that feeling! Started working at my new job 3 weeks ago.. But it gets better and better :)
  • 1
    I had the same starting a new job in a foreign country. What helped was doing 1:1 with coworkers.
  • 2
    Still a student but I have the same feeling at times, when I confront with better students than me. Almost got me to quit but I'm starting to trust myself better and working to be more knowledgeable day by day :) Adapt and overcome!
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    @kaupeyk Thanks a lot :) So true!
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    @kaupeyk

    if(self.WrongfullyThoughtSelfFixedABugAndBoasted()) {
    ImpostorScore*=2;
    }
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    @Gnonpi yes, true, that works. Also after-work beers with them. Team building so to speak.
    But it's one thing to be comfortable with the team, and a whole other thing to know that they really value you, and don't just pretend in order to be polite or, worse, politically correct.
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