Remember the boss I so very much wanted to impress and respect?

He told a junior colleague (behind my back) that she should supervise me and give me work.

NGL, I had it. This is where I pivot for the exit. Not sharply tho, but surely finishing the PhD as fast as possible. Unless drastic changes happen, I don't want to work with him in the long run.

I struggled with this the entire weekend. But it's good to finally have a clearer direction.

Story of our lives isn't it.

Hard workers kept down by ass-licking scums in the office.

A company where I worked before hired a friend on my advice (I wanted to help him so he could switch employer AND stay in the country AND i din't want the lead role, some of us prefer more coding) and they said to him exactly that. From then - my friends behavior towards me was weird as fuck. The boss only said that (not really boss, lame manager, fuckface) to look cool or smth. Actually destroyed a friendship. That friend was also from a place where they're bit more hierarchical than we are in NL. So I ended up as somebody's bitch. My own friend's bitch.

I did the fuck everything for that freaking fuckface company.

TL;DR: yeah, in my experience, GTFO. I wish I did it sooner when it happened to me

@retoor the TL;DR is usually on top so you can skip the rest but we forgive you ( at least I do )

I hate it when work ruins my weekends

@MammaNeedHummus I hate when weekends ruin my work. Just kidding. Writing ten hours a day on so on my own stuff or so. Non stop with no mercy

@retoor I would never refer a friend in the same company I work at. Nope never doing that.

I actually have WeWork PTSD because of it.

Is this colleague not good at things or something?

I have had managers younger than me. Didn't really bother me. Though the last one I tormented daily with woeful tales of the state of the code base. He is the one that left because he didn't work on stuff like our boss wanted.

If you are more devious than this person you could figure out how to self direct by making them think of things you want to do. The old make the boss think they thought of it trick.

@Demolishun the colleague is not an issue. The issue is the boss's attitude, and the fact that I'm hired to do research, not unrelated software development. This is just the old man throwing stones on my path. Plus, he could have that talk in my presence, not ordering another to order me around. And the colleague doesn't have nearly enough experience for supervising me.
The old man is avoidant, for all I know. I think he's doing this as a form of punishment for me, because I complained about something else like two weeks ago.

Overall, not fun. I moved half the planet away to work with him, and I am just utterly disappointed in him.

@NoMad before you quit - you just could mention that you're disappointed due this. Nothing to lose right? Maybe he'll be shocked a bit and tries to make it alright

@retoor I have over a year of contract left, and a PhD to finish. 😛
It's more of a pivot, as I said, than just quitting.
I wouldn't count on him making anything right tho. I don't think his ego would allow it.