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I've complained about this friend who I help out with a side project before and I don't know how to deal with this anymore.

He decided he wants to send out a free weekly newsletter with content that takes a lot of time to create.

He got burned out from all of the work. I tell him to only do it bi-weekly. Still doesn't listen.

He doesn't work, whereas I have a full-time job, his mom feeds him and does everything for him.

Someone on the newsletter said they didn't receive a newsletter they signed up for and now he's dumping that on me. I refuse to deal with it. I have paid a lot of my own money for the website he uses to post stuff. He knows more about the newsletter software than I do. The least he can do is deal with the people on Discord and the email newsletter issues, because I honestly don't have time. He has a solar generator at his house, so he can work through the power outages we have on a daily basis, I do not.

He keeps wanting to give out free shit to people, whereas I told him this side project needs to start making money to make it worthwhile for me. He's always making excuses that he doesn't have money, blah blah blah. We designed a cool magazine and it's pretty much finished, but now he's stalling with things he needs to do to get it published on Drivethrurpg.

He just hassled me again to check this gmail I made for him to use for the newsletter and this YouTube he wants to start. I told him, no I haven't had time.

The other day I went to his house to hang out, he gave me a taste of his home made ginger beer and I said it's great, but then he went and drank a pint of it without even offering me some, right in my face. His mom came out and asked me an hour later if I wanted tea. These people are weird. Maybe I am weird.

He also doesn't use the project management software I showed him how to use, so I don't know what's going on. And I told him this a couple of times.

Think I should tell this dude that I don't have time to work on this stuff? And how do I do it politely, yet sternly?

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    I have always been the guy who is trying to help everyone. But now I'm not going to do it, because I get shit for whatever I did for free.

    Tell him to work on 1 thing first before he works on another one, because that 1 thing before will be forgotten. If he is willing to do that, and you think it is going to be a success, you could give him one more chance. Else I would go into my ignore mode.
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    I had something similar a while ago. I think you already know the answer and there's just no easy way around it if they have this weird idea about "but you gotta or I'll be in trouble".

    It's simply not your problem nor responsibility. Consider the distinction between those two concepts and how neither of them apply. It's entirely on him to own it and not put that brick in your lap.
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    @d00td00t agreed. I am at the ignore point in time right now.
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    @dissolvedgirl please activate anti-stalker mode. Even better: stealth mode. I wish I had the invisibility cloak from harry potter

    In the past, they been talking bad about me when I ignored them.

    Also a friend, he didn't pay for the job. So I stopped working on it, did not give him the code and ignored him. I've been working 6 months on that project.
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    @jestdotty Very true...

    He's actually a good-natured person, but quite detached from reality. I pity him in a way, but he's a grown-ass man and needs to start taking financial things a bit more seriously.
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