I suck with the ladies :( I turned 25 last week and have only dated 1 girl because my retarded ass decided to ignore dating until I have time and my situation is stable and now that I'm old and don't know how to get into a relationship I'm starting to regret my past decisions...

I feel you so hard on this one!

Dating? We don’t do that here.

Duuuuude.

First things first: 25 is NOT old. You have your most interesting years waaaay ahead of you, especially when it comes to dating. Most people start a family in their late 30s now, so chillax bro, U got time.

Also: how does it matter how many people you have been together with? I mean relationships are not collectibles. If you had one, great! It's one more than many others had. If you'd like to get more experience: go for it! There are soooo many interesting people out there. Especially women, whom I consider more interesting than men in general. Don't get stressed there's roughly 70 years of life and billions of people left for you.

Some friends of mine had some recent success with dating apps. They seem to get less shite over time.

Finally: From the depth of my heart, all the best for your efforts! May your quest for love be successful :)

@DirtEffect it matters because the first few relationships is where you learn from your mess ups especially when you're younger, it also makes you understand the opposite gender better thus being able to "score" easier.

@thirdworld I mean I am not the greatest expert, but this is not how relationships work.

If you want to understand "a gender" you may be interested in gender studies or general sociology.

And what the hell do you want to score? I mean it's not like women pop out a candy if you throw in a coin.

You're probably alright with the ladies. Just get good at communication, and you'll be money.

Lots of good advice already given, but I too have heard a lot of success stories about dating apps. Met my wife on one actually! Just get out there, be assertive about contacting people, and be safe (both with COVID and with meeting strangers). Never meet with anyone in a private location for the first or maybe even second date. Lots of scam artists out there too, so stay alert. I had a great time with online dating....overall.

huhh screw this am 27 still not even thinking of dating heha

Well, you are not alone. That's the only thing I can say

@Nanos Dude what the actual overwhelming clusterfuck?!?

I dated 3 girls and I'm 22 right now.

Been single for about a year now and believe me, it's not just because you suck with the ladies...

@Nanos He wants to get laid and not infiltrate the motherfucking Kremlin.

@DirtEffect thats good advice he gives but i gotta admit crazy fuck best too.
and best to fuck crazy at *their place then after a week, dump^, rinse and repeat.
inb4 im a pig, deranged minds think about promiscuity all the time and would have hated you because of being trapped in a relation.
looking for a normal girl just to satisfy urges: thats being a pig i say

We are individuals.

Look up the definition of the word.

Noone is the same.

I for example wouldn't like relationships at the moment.

I'm against open relationships and polygamy. A relationship is something that needs time and investment.

Both things I don't / can't do at the moment.

The thing is: Many seek a relationship for the sake of having one (or because society / family wants them to have one).

But if you yourself haven't made up your mind to have one, it's not a relationship but rather a short term / one night stand quickie.

If you want a relationship, realize that you need to socialize.

I'm not a fan of dating apps... For many reasons.

If you had to pick yourself at a store with a true description of your metadata (character / ...) I guess you wouldn't pick yourself either.

Socializing is a lection about who you are, how others see you and learning what / why someone might think of you in a negative way.

It doesn't mean that you have to change.

But there might come a time where you start liking a person and think: ok... Maybe I should start by not doing XY which pissed off everyone so far.

Then you're on a good way.

Cause relationship involves compromise. On both sides.

Bro you get another burst of interest around 30 bit probably you're just missing the signals.

Women send em out all the time. And no its not just me.

Idont meantime crude but Women are just as horny as us dudes. They just show it less, and are subtler about it.

Theres three possibilities 1. You're truly unattractive either personality wise or physically. I doubt this because I've known enough women who dated dad bod type guys (and even meant women dating guys who looked about as handsome as hunchbacks).

2. You're missing the signals

3. You have confidence issues.

It shouldnt require massive effort or dedication to attract people.

Likely its number 2 or 3 which are both fixable.

@Wisecrack I don't think I'm butt ugly but I do have confidence issues since I broke my nose when I was a kid so I'm really self conscious about that but also I feel like as I got closer to that 30 Mark my confidence just plummeted in general.

@thirdworld got it. Need some exposure therapy then. Shall we begin the jabbing and ribbing about your nose?

Kidding. But seriously, guys get a boost in attractiveness around 30.
Doesnt help the message in your head but nothing anyone can do about that, just you can.

Try some harmless flirting. Great ego boost, lots of fun in general, and most women seem to like the attention (or who knows maybe I'm deluded and they just tolerate me as I make an ass out of myself).

Everyone likes to feel good looking, and lots of people like to make others feel like they look good. So if you dont know how to start, start with compliments.

Women receive like a 100 a day so it's nothing to them but it means you can get some practice in. Also gives you practice in being honest about what you like and find attractive.