Changing jobs. I found something different, with new challenges. My current job still challenges me, but I feel it's constantly similar stuff, just in different flavors.

My current company is asking me to stay longer than for my 3-month notice. They say it's too rapid and I should have told them earlier that I'm looking for a new job. Is it even true? Do people do this?

Should I stay? I really like the guys and I don't want to put them in a difficult situation but at the same time the argument about my decision being too rapid seems weak. Our team is over 30 people, it won't suffer THAT much. They will probably offer me a higher salary, but going against my feeling just for the money seems... kinda wrong. What do you think?

Would they do the same for you?
No.

3 months is ridiculously long already. Maybe you can negotiate an extra length for extra pay.

Have you already accepted the new job? If so, who would you rather piss off, your current employer or your new one?

3 months is stupidly long already, if they wanted longer, it should have been in the contract. Don't let them guilt trip you, any employer will drop any employee in a flash if it suits the business.

@Benutzername Totally.
“How much notice would you have given me before termination?”

"Great guys" don't try to guilt people into staying longer.

Stick to the the 3-months notice - if you both agreed to it as the contact was signed, then both parties apparently acknowledged that's the exact right amount of time and nothing too rapid.

@nibor no, only some declaration, that I want to sign a contract, but it's nothing legally binding.

@Maer I mean that's just law in my country, that we have 3-months notice after working for a certain amount of time.

But yeah, from what you guys saying I may be to soft for them. It's not a girlfriend, it's business and business is rough :D

What I'm really thinking of right now is what if they offer me a better salary. On the one hand it's great and may make me wanna stay, but on the other hand I'll still have the need to find new challenges in me and I'll have to start looking again.

This is a fairly easy one I think. I’m assuming your contractual notice period is 3 months. If it’s more you should do more. If it’s less then you shouldn’t have given 3 months.

If you already have your next job and it’s a new company (rather than a new job at the same company) they are surely going to want you so telling them to wait even longer isn’t a good idea. They could cancel the job offer.

But, if you don’t have your next job lined up then it’s a different story. Your answer should be “I would be more than happy for us to come to an arrangement whereby after my 3 month notice period I stay to help on a contract basis. We could agree a rate and discuss how long you would like me to stay”

Don’t work there longer than your notice unless it’s as a contractor. You are the one with the leverage here