Join devRant
Do all the things like
++ or -- rants, post your own rants, comment on others' rants and build your customized dev avatar
Sign Up
Pipeless API
From the creators of devRant, Pipeless lets you power real-time personalized recommendations and activity feeds using a simple API
Learn More
-
Hahaha I feel your pain bro.
Here's a perspective from someone who has seen some weedings those are known globally, THE BIG FAT INDIAN WEDDINGS. Lol
People here see weddings as an event of cultural repayment (for the lack of better word). What I mean by that is, parents consider themselves as duty free of their lives when they marry off their children.
And they invite the whole world primarily for food. Where we honour guest we food. More food == to better honour.
Now, when we get invited to someone's wedding, we have to maintain the relationship by inviting them to mine. It's like a cultural exchange.
With destination weddings (those in different cities), is now a big thing in India with more people moving to upper middle class. That is to show off a little and links back to the previous goal of better treatment equating to higher honour. -
And it's said that in every wedding, there will always be one family fight where someone expects a certain kind of treatment and host family misses it. The said guest has all the right and will surely create a show out of it for not being treated well enough. A simple and real life example would be, guest wants warm water and someone failed to make that arrangement or offered regular temperature water. Kaboom! Fight fight fight.
And I think that's where shit is painful. But as a guest, it's super fun to attend a wedding. Being on host side is pain because one doesn't truly get to enjoy it. But people feel pride of spending more and more as that is all about status quo here in India.
Hence the term we have 'Shaadi khane gaya tha'
Meaning, I went to eat at a wedding. It's all about food bitch. Also a gujjue wedding has fuck ton of beg food you could never even imagine. Haha -
@iiii That would be called marriage, whereas a wedding is the ceremony.
-
@saucyatom for me those are the same. One is a part of the other.
-
@AlmondSauce lmao fucked up the typing, this is what happens when I type long rants on my fucking phone man T___T
-
In my opinion large weddings are overrated bullshit....
I really love it when two people find and love each other and want to celebrate their union - but please, keep it on a sane level.
I don't want to know how an e.g. Indian or Turkish marriage works... For me large crowds are a no go (I cannot deal with too many people / crowds)…
What I really really hate is when the marriage planning sounds more like a "money spending contest".
The nicest wedding I attended so far was - funnily enough - a traditional swabian one. Family, few friends, roughly 30 people. Lots of funny rituals. Nothing spectacular, but all in all very remarkable as I still remember a lot of details though it was roughly 7 years ago...
Celebration was in the woods with a large barbecue and it just was the whole day relaxing and having a nice day together. In the evening ceremony in the local Town hall... Fading out with a small catering service and drinks in the night.
It was all in all just a lovely get together. -
@IntrusionCM , as said @Floydimus - marriages in several cultures are basically a financial flex. People buy yatchs and Rolex when they want to flex to strangers, and big-ass weddings when flexing to friends and family. No better way to take the smile out of that smug aunt or take the spotlight away from that perfect cousin for a change.
Not my case, BTW. Eloped!
!dev
I will never understand the need for weeding bs. I am ok with marriage, and doing whatever religious festivity you want to whatever deity you follow. I respect that stuff enough to not go all anti-religious or what not. But I just cannot fathom making a party that benefits the attendee (food whatnot) more than the people starting a life together. Gifts? a popularity contest? I don't get it. My weeding was simple, did not invite a bunch of people, shit burned bridges, but our families were there and that to me was more than enough. Anyone else that got offended, well, they can get offended whenever they pay one of my fucking bills.
But I just cannot get the need to have such a ceremony, AND then to have the audacity to get upset or call out people that cannot make it. Make it for fucking what? the bridge and groom are going to be so fucking distracted with everyone that at most your presence gets an "ah glad you came!"
AND some people even do it in different cities, fucking why? it is a burden as an adult to make time for such minute events, even more to take the time, and the fucking money to go to your fucking party on another city. Bonus points if I need to buy a fucking airplane ticket, no fucking thanks.
I am currently doing something big in my life that only my wife can help me with, because of my situation, my family can't help me, so i am all by myself and wife, and some people told me to put it on hold.....to go to a fucking party. WHY? Why in the sweet holy Mexican baby Ritchie would I go ahead and fucking do that? you are not going to help me afterwards when I get back, shit, you will be out on fucking vacation after the party, for 2 fucking weeks (talk about privilege) and you still want me to put my shit on hold to go...to a fucking party?
Fuck, sometimes I feel that I am toooo fucking egotistical to put my time before others, but man, you really get shit out of this. 2 weedings happening this month, one requires a ticket, the other is a drive away (4 fucking hours) but still, I really don't feel that I should waste my VL that I would much rather spend with my wife and child on some fucking obnoxious ego-inflated party.
rant
fk this