Do you have an ambition?

If yes, why do you have it?

I had. After graduating i no longer have

I do. But I can't really tell you why... Comes natural I guess...

I usually don't understand how people can not have ambitions. To me it seems like the only reasonable goal in life is to actually try and do stuff with it. If I can provide for my family and/or future generations while doing it, that's freakin' awesome

@Hazarth I'm the opposite. I have none and I cannot understand how people even become motivated for something.

@iiii probably because your brain is wired differently.

Out of curiosity: do you have hobbies or anything that makes fun to you?

yes.
why?
I get bored real fast and I am curious of what I can archieve. I also like to build stuff.

@IntrusionCM not right now. I've had a hobby of playing board games, after some arguments with the play group and after years of being cooped in my apartment because of pandemic and war even that interest have faded away almost completely. I'm not waiting for any new game or eager to play any current one as well.

I feel like pretty much nothing is really fun anymore. Like, something can be fun for a very brief time, but fades away in a day at most.

Also feeling somewhat useless overall, because I've "wasted" my twenties and do not see any meaning in doing anything much anymore.

I hate people and want to destroy them.

Of course i have ambitions. If i touch it, i make it right because that is how i am.

But i don't want to climb some corporate ladder or do something that makes me immortal in peoples' memory or something like that. I don't have ambitions of that kind.

@iiii The way I see it, there is no point crying over spilled milk. My twenties also weren't the wildest, though everything I did in the past still makes me the person I am today.

The only thing you can really do is live in the moment, and plan for the future, otherwise you're also going to waste your 30s, 40s and really your whole life. And once I'm dying, I don't want to look back on my whole life and feel like I didn't have fun and just waited for death. All the small things, like just being with my friends and family and the big things like building something great or going on adventures in the world, hell even the bad things I went through, they are all worth it in the end. Otherwise I would've lived literally for nothing and no-one, and that would be a depressing thought at the end of the day...

though it's not fear of being sad that moves me forward, it's just the general outlook of making the most of the limited time we all have

@Hazarth the issue is the future is already decided on an undesired path, and cannot be changed from it, because the changing point was in the past

Like if you had broken your leg, it will never become unbroken despite any amount of medical care given. It will always have a flaw of being broken before

@iiii yes, but that's exactly the point. You can no longer affect that, so even thinking about "what could've been" is essentially useless for anything other than retrospection.

If I bought a house 2,5 years ago, I would've been set. Now It's late and everything is super expensive and all my money essentially lost 18% of their value due to inflation. Tough luck, I work with the cards Im currently dealt, not with the cards I no longer have. I never worry about things I can no longer change, I only worry about the next steps to my goal, whatever the goal is at the time.

You need a goal to work towards I guess. I was never goaless, there's always something I want to do or make work, so ultimately I never run out of Motivation. So perhaps that's the first step you should make as well and set a goal? It can be anything really, doesn't need to be anything grand, as long as you're on "a path" you will stumble across new goals and priorities I think. At least that seems to be my case

@iiii That's not to say It's wrong to feel goaless and depressed. I know that Feeling too. I can't say Im exactly the pure source of positivity and motivation and I definely feel hopeless, tired and demotivated sometimes, but That's usually me being tired or burned-out and usually goes away after a couple of nights of good quality sleep.

So you don't need to pressure yourself into having ambitions or goals right away or anything. But It's a good idea to think about long term goals more than about the past in general

@Hazarth I'm not trying to pressure myself into anything or thinking "what if", just feeling pointlessness of that

@Hazarth I don't have a goal and don't really see any point in having some long term goal at all