if (!isset($woman))
{
$cry = false;
}

wish i could double ++ that.

//so therefore

if(woman) {
cry = true; // ??
}

it seems like this is somehow wrong and that i should be upset about this, but i can't quite put my finger on why..

@arminiae It probably because we treat woman as objects

@arminiae
// the inverse would be
if (! isset($woman))
{
cry=true
}

So if woman is non exist, cry
If woman does exist, don't cry.

@arminiae

not my words arminiae, the somewhat sexist words of Bob Marley!

Logically,
!woman => !cry
does not imply:
woman => cry

It implies:
cry => woman

@arminiae It is upsetting, because most forms of "men are like this, women are like that" diminish a person to their gender. Tell me your gender and I'll tell you who you are :(
Most disturbing IMO is that the more we hear these false truths, the more they become true. Kids and teenagers hear that and let it define them.