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how do you handle the salary question among friend circles/relatives/strangers?

i come from a lower middle class background, and my friend circle's family were in similar ranges(some had richer families).

my parents struggled hard to get me into tech and fortunately tech is hot right now, so currently the today's situation is that if counting the individual's income (not the family) then i maybe the highest warner among them (1 is a lawyer , another is a teacher, another is an amazon delivery manager, plus there are a few others).

my problem with this question is that its none of their business. firstly, i am all that my family has. these guys have richer brothers, fathers and sisters their total income is way more than mine. and even if i earn more, i don't earn to be the rich spender of the group. and i neither can be their sole source of hope in case anyone ever needs any money.

and more so fucked up shit is the fact that friends are ruthless and starts discussing this stuff anywhere. like we are among the strangers for fucks sake!! and knowing the state i live in , some of these guys could follow me and burst my guts in the name of money, which i fucking don't have!

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    Just avoid the question or tell them you actualy make less. Ultimately you shouldnt be around such retards in the first place. I lie my friends that I make less, or if real number gets out then I start complaining about how hard it is to keep such position and they get the vibe that I have golden handcuffs. Seems to work
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    What's it matter?

    Like, if they want to know tell them.

    If you don't want them to know, don't.

    Just tell them you make enough to provide for yourself.
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    i usually ask if they're comfortable talking about it, some people dislike it for some reason.

    i think it shouldn't be taboo, because it helps us fight for better salaries, specially women, poc and disabled people.
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    @dotenvironment what the fuck kinda toxic environment is that? India?

    That being said, I agree with @darksideofyay that being open about it helps us fight inequality - and just because of that, we really should talk about it, especially within a workplace.
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    I’m just honest, if they like it, cool otherwise, too bad. It’s not something to subject to others opinions IMO
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