Last Saturday, I came across a fellow techie at a house party. As soon as he found out I am a developer, the question
"What is your favorite programming language?"
came bursting not even a nano-second after I told him.

Anyone else finds this super cringe?

I believe that people who dig deep trenches in such a topic will be the root cause for the next software crisis. I mean, look at Javascript. In one of my later posts, literally noone could give me a reason to not think Javascript is a dumpster fire. And yet it spread out like a malignant tumor.

To verify not all is lost, I quickly googled any databases written in JS, and luckily just found one archived repo and nothing else. Because Im calling it, once Javascript reaches the database layer, it's terminal.

I don't understand why people gotta gate keep on other peoples' joy or happiness. The dude was excited to talk to someone who even knows what he likes to talk about. It is like finding a fellow gamer that is playing the same game as you. They get the jokes.

I mean you said the question but not the way he said it

I would've just answered and seen if he was going to have issues with my answer or not.
I also would've found it funny if he did

I think if you want a better culture it starts with you pushing back on everyday people you meet who seem to have weird agendas with their questions, if they do

do people even hang out with cringe people? I get the sense anytime someone calls someone cringe it's to say "you're not cool enough" to be socially adept enough for my upper echelon social group. no way to win a culture war being isolationist if you wanted to be part of the solution instead of cowering in a corner 😏

I'm picking on you a bit, never met someone who calls people cringe who wasn't neurotically obsessed about social approval and a budding narcissist 😝

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... and then I read the rest of the post and I'm less perky about it now
mongodb is JavaScript ? old news now
aren't you the thing you hate, hating on JavaScript rn?

You must be fun at parties...

“What’s your favorite programming language” is a good first question. It’s better than “What programming language do you use at work” because not all of us write in languages that we prefer at work and therefore might not want to wax poetic about it. It’s just a question to try to find common ground. It’s like if you’re a reader and you meet another bookworm - you’ll probably ask favorite book or author. Meet another metalhead? Probably going to ask favorite band or album.

This is just how people socialize.